The group was quiet as several people thought about their own lives.
听了这番话，所有人都想到了自己的生活，大家安静下来。
"
Well,"
Jessica
said, "
most
people
here
are
talking
about
jobs,
but
as
I
listened
to
the
story,
I
thought
about
my
personal
life.
I
think
my
current
relationship
is
'Old
Cheese'
that
has
some
pretty
serious
mold
on
it."
"呃，"杰西卡清了清嗓子，打破了宁静，"大家好像都在谈论自己的工作，但是我听到了这个故事以后，却想到了我的个人生活。我觉得我目前的情况，我的家庭关系，就像一个
'旧奶酪
'，上面长满了霉菌。"
Cory
laughed
in
agreement. "
Me
too.
I
probably
need
to
let
go
of
a
bad
relationship."
柯瑞笑出声来，表示赞同："我也是。我也许我现在最该采取行动的就是让一段不愉快的关系尽快过去。"
Angela
countered, "
Or,
perhaps
the
'Old
Cheese'
is
just
old
behavior.
What
we
really
need
to
let
go
of
is
the
behavior
that
is
the
cause
of
our
bad
relationship.
And
then
move
on
to
a
better
way
of
thinking
and
acting."
安杰拉反驳道："我不同意你的观点，也许这个
'旧奶酪
'只是一种旧的行为方式。我们需要放弃的只是引起这种状况的旧的行为方式，而不是这个
'奶酪
'。这样我们才会朝更好的思维和行为方式转变。"
"
Ouch!"
Cory
reacted. "
Good
point.
The
New
Cheese
is
a
new
relationship
with
the
same
person."
"对呀！"柯瑞受到启发，"好观点。新奶酪就是用新的积极的行为方式与一个人建立新关系。"
Richard
said, "
I'm
beginning
to
think
there
is
more
to
this
than
I
thought.
I
like
the
idea
of
letting
go
of
old
behavior
instead
of
letting
go
of
the
relationship.
Repeating
the
same
behavior
will
just
get
you
the
same
results.
理查德说："我在想，也许这个故事还有更多有建设性的启发等待我们挖掘。我同意安杰拉的观点——需要放弃的是旧的行为方式而不是关系本身。一成不变的行为方式还是会导致同样的结果"
"
As
far
as
work
goes,
maybe
instead
of
changing
jobs
I
should
be
changing
the
way
I
am
doing
my
job.
I'd
probably
have
a
better
position
by
now
if
I
did."
"就工作而言，或许我应该成为帮助公司进行改变的人之一，而不是因为害怕公司的改变而辞去工作。如果早这么想、这么做的话，我现在也许就会有一个更好的职位了。"
Then
Becky,
who
lived
in
another
city
but
had
returned
for
the
reunion,
said, "
As
I
was
listening
to
the
story
and
to
everyone's
comments
here,
I've
had
to
laugh
at
myself.
I've
been
like
Hem
for
so
long,
hemming
and
hawing
and
afraid
of
change.
I
didn't
realize
how
many
other
people
did
this
as
well.
I'm
afraid
I've
passed
it
on
to
my
children
without
even
knowing
it.
贝基生活在另一个城市，这次特意赶来参加同学聚会。这时她说："当我在听这个故事，以及听到大家的讨论时，我真的禁不住要讽笑我自己。许久以来，我一直像哼哼那样，害怕改变，凡事迟疑犹豫，拒绝改变，为上我不知道丢掉了多少美味的奶酪。我不知道其他人怎样，我恐怕已经在不知不觉中，把这种哼哼式的思想传给了我的孩子们。"
"
As
I
think
about
it,
I
realize
change
really
can
lead
you
to
a
new
and
better
place,
although
you're
afraid
it
won't
at
the
time.
"当我反复思考这个问题和身边的一些人和事后，我在想或许变化真的以能把你带到一个崭新的、更好的地方，尽管当时你担心事情的变化将并非如此。"
"
I
remember
a
time
when
our
son
was
a
sophomore
in
high
school.
My
husband's
job
required
us
to
move
from
Illinois
to
Vermont
and
our
son
was
upset
because
he
had
to
leave
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